the good vibe

It's all about connection.
It's all about finding what links you to the others rather than what divides you from them.
It's all about building a common ground, going through the world with your shield down. It's that feeling that you know they know, that you feel they feel the same, they understand.
And to be understood, you have to understand. You have to stop, think,  analyse and think about how you communicate. How you can find a thread strong enough to carry your meaning until it meets the meaning of the other.
It's an exercise.  And as every other exercise, the more you practice, the better you get at it. The easier it gets.

misled

You think that comparing a meaningless picture to an Edward Hopper painting is a good enough sign of a common ground. 

You astound when he asks you where Cheryl´s book is and you end up exchanging your favorite literature one night before falling asleep, because you think it´s a sign of a common soul.

You smile when he says he wants to go to the Philharmonic before leaving, because it´s a sign of a common sensitivity.

You hope that those hands holding you back each time you say you had enough are a sign of a common heart.

  

You are wrong. 

   

defining limits

I must have missed class when these terms were taught:

patience

Pronunciation: /peɪʃ(ə)ns/

noun 

the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious

willingness

noun

the quality or state of being prepared to do something; readiness:

wait

Pronunciation: /weɪt/

noun

stay where one is or delay action until a particular time or event.

But I was definitely there and particularly focused as this one came up:

proactive

Pronunciation: /prəʊˈaktɪv/

adjective

(of a person or action) creating or controlling a situation rather than just responding to it after it has happened.

I AM GOING TO TAKE PRIVATE LESSONS.